I’m SUPER excited to have my wife, Meg on the blog! Annnndddd, today happens to be her birthday! We’ll be sharing more about marriage, love, and our story. We are insanely passionate about these things and love to walk with people in the good and challenging seasons of what it means to create and maintain a thriving, committed relationship. If you haven’t already met her, without further ado, I am honored to introduce you to Sweet Meg! – Garrett
Hi everyone! First of all, a few things to introduce myself. Many people see me in Garrett’s photos as “sweet Meg.” While I am incredibly grateful for my wonderful husband and the ways he is dedicated to speaking the best about me, I can be the first to attest to the fact that there are times when I am not always just “sweet,” but I’m sure that’s not a huge surprise…
I can definitely be a bit rough around the edges. After about four and a half years of marriage, Garrett says one of his favorite things about me is my honesty, and at times it is probably helpful, but at other times I am sure it’s not always easy. I don’t love small talk, I can do it, but don’t love it. I like to cut straight to the heart of things and often find myself thinking, “shoot, why did I just ask about that? I don’t even know them that well…” But then, once I get past all of my own insecurity, people often answer those quite intrusive questions. They actually let me into the sacred space of their inner worlds, their difficult and not curated pain.
I’ve learned through this process, people are just waiting for someone to ask the right questions. So, I say risk it. Be bold, put yourself on the line and be a bit vulnerable. You may just happen to provide space, freedom, and healing for someone just because you let yourself be curious about them instead of preoccupied with worry over what they might be thinking about you. Hope I’m not alone in this.
As a result of this particular disposition, I have found myself completely drawn to the field of psychology and psychotherapy. A great friend of mine recently reminded me that psychology actually means, “the study of the soul.” Come on…how can you not be intrigued?! We all have a soul separate from our body and mind, yet intimately connected. The soul is the substance of who we are and is what continues on as our bodies grow, change, age, pass away. If this is the only thing that truly remains, I want to invest in it and help others invest in theirs.
So I am currently in my second year of a master’s program studying marriage and family therapy. I also work as a resident director at Point Loma Nazarene University. In my job, I have the privilege of sitting with college students in some of their most proud and some of their darkest moments. Again, you can see a theme in me that I love the REAL stuff. But I am also convinced that we all love the real stuff, even when it scares us. Because of this, Garrett and I talked about the idea that you all may hear from me from time to time. I have some thoughts and I learn lots of awesome stuff, stuff that has completely enhanced mine and Garrett’s marriage for the better. The conversations we have are NOT. ALWAYS. EASY. But they are good because they allow for deeper and truer intimacy. I eventually would like to think of myself as not only a therapist, but as an “intimacy specialist.” So, for the purpose of getting past the small talk and investing in souls, intimacy, relationships, and marriages, I am honored to share some resources and thoughts. I consider myself just a fellow soul on the journey of striving after wholeness and healing.
Garrett and I love people. We love weddings. We LOVE marriage. We sometimes joke (but not joking) that Garrett gets to capture the joy and excitement and I someday will get to catch the tears and empower people to put pieces back together when things start to feel broken. We are both committed to being merchants of joy and hope and are complete believers in marriage as one of the most powerful foundations for family and society. Thanks for letting us into your beautiful and unique story in one way or another. It’s an honor.
Photo 1: Sterling Winery, Napa Valley California | Photo 2: Paris, France – photo by Catherine O’Hara | Photo 3: Paris, France